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“I wish I could say I figured it all out and stopped people-pleasing. I haven't. I still catch myself wanting to make everyone happy. I still sometimes say yes too quickly and wonder afterward why I agreed to something I didn't really want to do. The difference now is that I notice it. I can pause. I can ask myself what I want before asking what everyone else wants. I can consider whether helping someone is actually helping, or whether I'm simply afraid of disappointing them. And I'm learning that someone being disappointed with me doesn't automatically mean I've done something wrong. That has been a difficult lesson.” twloha.com/blog/people-pleas…

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

Your generosity should never come at the cost of your peace and health. People-pleasing is exhausting and you can unlearn it.

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We know holidays can bring extra heaviness. If this Halloween feels hard for you, you are not alone. Resources + Support: Crisis Text Line - Text TWLOHA to 741741 Peer Support Groups - twloha.com/peersupport FIND HELP Tool - twloha.com/find-help Mental Health Toolkit - twloha.com/toolkit

The real jump scare is a world that expects you to carry on like your pain and grief aren’t real.

ALT The real jump scare is a world that expects you to carry on like your pain and grief aren’t real.

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You don't have to have it all figured out to know that you will make it through. You can still have hope even amidst the unknown.

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“Am I saying yes because I want to, or because I don't want someone to be disappointed in me? That question can be uncomfortable. Sometimes the answer was obvious. I was saying yes because I wanted to be liked. I was giving because I wanted to be appreciated. I was sacrificing because, somewhere inside me, someone else's happiness felt more important than my own. And that realization wasn't particularly flattering. But it was useful.” twloha.com/blog/people-pleas…

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

Your generosity should never come at the cost of your peace and health. People-pleasing is exhausting and you can unlearn it.

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Find one thing you can look forward to. Make that thing for yourself if you need to. Starting a new book. Trying a new recipe. Exploring a new park. Give yourself future moments that help you keep moving forward.

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“I became very good at knowing what other people wanted. I wasn't nearly as good at knowing what I wanted. It started affecting my decisions. I became indecisive. Not because I had no opinions, but because there were always so many other things to consider. Would they be disappointed? Would they think I was selfish? Could I somehow make this work for them? What did they need? What would make them happy?” twloha.com/blog/people-pleas…

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

Your generosity should never come at the cost of your peace and health. People-pleasing is exhausting and you can unlearn it.

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We invite you to join a community that cares through our Peer Support Program. Group offerings and registration links can be found at twloha.com/peersupport.

Join a community that cares. Good Company Gatherings - TWLOHA’s Peer Support Program Between the holidays, the colder weather, the time change—things can feel heavier this time of year. If you could use some company during these weeks and months, our online peer support groups are free and open. No pressure to talk. You can just show up. Learn more about each group offering and register now at twloha.com/peersupport.

ALT Join a community that cares. Good Company Gatherings - TWLOHA’s Peer Support Program Between the holidays, the colder weather, the time change—things can feel heavier this time of year. If you could use some company during these weeks and months, our online peer support groups are free and open. No pressure to talk. You can just show up. Learn more about each group offering and register now at twloha.com/peersupport.

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Our free online peer support is offered every week. Learn more about group offerings and register now at twloha.com/peersupport.

Good Company Gatherings - TWLOHA’s Peer Support Program Online Free Intentional Spaces Regular Meetings Come as you are and find support with others who understand. twloha.com/peersupport

ALT Good Company Gatherings - TWLOHA’s Peer Support Program Online Free Intentional Spaces Regular Meetings Come as you are and find support with others who understand. twloha.com/peersupport

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“I didn't think of myself as a people pleaser. I just knew that saying yes felt better than saying no. Someone needed help? Yes. Someone was disappointed? I tried to fix it. Someone needed something I couldn't really afford? I would make it work. Someone thinking badly of me? I didn't like that feeling. From the outside, this can look like generosity. You become dependable. Easy to approach. The person people know they can call. But there is a cost when you keep making room for everyone else. Eventually, there isn't much room left for you.” twloha.com/blog/people-pleas…

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

Your generosity should never come at the cost of your peace and health. People-pleasing is exhausting and you can unlearn it.

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Orlando—we’d love to see you at this special screening of our short film on November 12th. 💙 This event is completely free, but space is limited. Make sure to RSVP and reserve your spot at playhouse.band/twloha/orland…!

Celebrate 20 Years of the Movement November 12, 6:30-8:30 pm To Write Love Film Screening A La Cart Downtown 274 North Orange Ave Orlando, FL 32801

ALT Celebrate 20 Years of the Movement November 12, 6:30-8:30 pm To Write Love Film Screening A La Cart Downtown 274 North Orange Ave Orlando, FL 32801

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It's okay to say what hurts. It's okay to need time to process. It's okay to not be okay.

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“I used to think I was just a generous person. If a friend needed something, I tried to help. If someone invited me somewhere, I wanted to show up properly. I have borrowed money just to look good at a friend's party. I bought gifts because I wanted people to be pleased with me. If someone needed to borrow money and I didn't really have it, I could still find a way to lend it. Looking back, some of it was kindness. Some of it wasn't. Somewhere along the way, I had confused being a good person with making other people happy with me.” twloha.com/blog/people-pleas…

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted – TWLOHA

Your generosity should never come at the cost of your peace and health. People-pleasing is exhausting and you can unlearn it.

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It’s something we’ve believed since the very beginning: People need other people. We can carry the heaviest days by holding them alongside one another. Shop Stand By Me Shirt and other new arrivals at store.twloha.com

Stand By Me Shirt

ALT Stand By Me Shirt

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If the end of the year is a hard time for you, we understand. Join a community that cares through TWLOHA’s Peer Support Program: twloha.com/peersupport

Join a community that cares. Good Company Gatherings - TWLOHA’s Peer Support Program Our Online Peer Support Gatherings can help you find support. Show up as you are, connect with others. These meetings are free, confidential, and led by trained peer facilitators.

ALT Join a community that cares. Good Company Gatherings - TWLOHA’s Peer Support Program Our Online Peer Support Gatherings can help you find support. Show up as you are, connect with others. These meetings are free, confidential, and led by trained peer facilitators.

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The darkness you're facing won't last forever. The sun will rise.

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You don’t have to prove that you’re “bad enough” to need support. Anyone can need help, and anyone should be able to ask for help. These resources are for you: Peer Support - twloha.com/peersupport FIND HELP Tool - twloha.com/find-help Mental Health Toolkit - twloha.com/toolkit Crisis Text Line - Text TWLOHA to 741741

Mental health struggles don’t care what you look like. They don’t care what hobbies you participate in, or what your plans are, or what you do for work. Mental health struggles can show up for anyone, at any time. Don’t convince yourself you’re unworthy of help.

ALT Mental health struggles don’t care what you look like. They don’t care what hobbies you participate in, or what your plans are, or what you do for work. Mental health struggles can show up for anyone, at any time. Don’t convince yourself you’re unworthy of help.

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Take a moment to ride the passing wave. We need you here tomorrow. Shop the new Cobalt Hoodie and other encouraging merch in our online store: store.twloha.com/products/co…

Cobalt Hoodie

ALT Cobalt Hoodie

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Those who default to people-pleasing to cope, to feel safe, and to be loved and accepted, so often quiet their own needs and desires for the sake of making others happy and comfortable. But eventually, that self sacrifice catches up and can bring up frustration, resentment, and a disconnection to ourselves. Unlearning people-pleasing takes time and compassion, it can mean losing friends while strengthening relationships with others (including our relationship with ourselves). We invite you to read “I Kept Saying Yes Until I Couldn't Tell What I Wanted” by Yahya Kasozi at twloha.com/blog/people-pleas….

I wish I could say I figured it all out and stopped people-pleasing. I haven't. I still catch myself wanting to make everyone happy. I still sometimes say yes too quickly and wonder afterward why I agreed to something I didn't really want to do. The difference now is that I notice it. I can pause. I can ask myself what I want before asking what everyone else wants.

ALT I wish I could say I figured it all out and stopped people-pleasing. I haven't. I still catch myself wanting to make everyone happy. I still sometimes say yes too quickly and wonder afterward why I agreed to something I didn't really want to do. The difference now is that I notice it. I can pause. I can ask myself what I want before asking what everyone else wants.

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We are all walking through life side by side. Reach out and let others know they aren't carrying it all alone.

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“Healing isn’t about finding one solution and sticking to it forever—it’s about adapting, learning, and growing. I reach out. I ask for help. I refuse to let shame silence me. For years, I bottled up my emotions, mistaking anger for strength. Now, I see that anger was protecting me. But I no longer need to fight the world—I need to fight for myself.” twloha.com/blog/healing-isnt…

Healing Isn’t Linear, And I’m Still Moving – TWLOHA

Healing Isn’t Linear, And I’m Still Moving – TWLOHA

Our healing doesn't arrive in any specific order or in any one moment. Healing is an ongoing unfolding specific to each person.

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