UNCLE~kay

We are using days like Boyfriend’s Day to reveal the kind of babes some of you are dating. This is not a joke nor an agenda. Nobody, at least not me, has ever said that you shouldn’t love and gift your woman. In fact, I’ve consistently maintained that there is no love without GIVING. The problem is that many of you men are foóls, but you think you are in love. You are in a “relationship” but you are the only giver. Girlfriend’s Day, you’ll send gifts. Valentine’s Day, you’ll pay surprise package vendors to curate gifts and decorate hotel rooms. Birthday, you’ll do even more. Christmas, Easter, New Year, Sallah, anniversary, you’ll send gifts and money. Online, you fight for your right to be a provider boyfriend because apparently Nigerian men have this saviour complex and provider fetish. Now, that is not the problem. The issue is that the babes you people go all out for to do these things for don’t rate you enough to spend their money and resources on you. They’ll treat Boyfriend’s Day like just another Tuesday. On Valentine’s Day, you’ll think it is just a day dedicated to men to give gifts and show workings. Many surprise package vendors didn’t sell much yesterday. I know this because I’ve seen the complaints online. It is not just the economy. The babes no rate una like that. Why do you men romanticize unrequited love so much? It is not simping if it is mutual. If you gifted your babe on Girlfriend’s Day and she didn’t gift you yesterday, you are dating rubbish. Yes, it is a bitter pill you must swallow. People put their money where their heart is. You are used to being in loveless relationships that you don’t even mind that your girlfriend doesn’t gift you on special days or randomly. Do you now see why it is easy for her to break up with you? It is because financially, she’s not invested in the relationship, so it is easy for her to walk away. You, on the other hand, can’t leave easily because you have invested so much. And when she eventually leaves, you’ll start crying wolf and calling women names. Saying all sorts of things that, when interpreted, would mean, “After all I did for her, she left me.” And she’ll also dribble you around with the same logic that, when interpreted, would mean, “Did I ask you?” And you know what? She’ll be right. She didn’t ask. You just kept pouring into someone who didn’t care about you enough to reciprocate. If you like, don’t pity yourself. You are not in a relationship.