Therapist, writer and media consultant; emotional health, relationships and therapy. Curious lover of life and new experiences. Pro kindness and humanity. ❤️
Marin County, California
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There is a tipping point when it comes to "staying together for the children." Pay attention to the reality of what they are seeing (learning about relationships) and signs of distress. Get real on the costs/benefits. Perhaps you will be better parents to them apart?
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Don't be afraid to reach out to someone who you know is struggling even if it makes you uncomfortable and you don't know what to say. Maybe just knowing you are aware and care can make a difference.
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This guy is on the move. And I couldn't be happier. @yungblud
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Divorce is inherently hard. The notion of trying to do it amicably and with respect is beautiful but requires both parties to be on board. It can be rough if one is not.
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The quality of any relationship can be partly understood by the interplay of each person's nervous system. Is safety being created for each other, or is it not?
Your role is how you show up to foster safety. How the other person shows up is generally out of your control.
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Sometimes we blame our partner for the resentment we feel when we're really angry at ourselves for abandoning our needs.
But resentment has different sources: there's the resentment that comes from being ignored, and there's the resentment that comes from not speaking up. The second kind is harder to face because it means owning our part in our own unhappiness.
In this week's #AskTheTherapist column, I help a reader who's been carrying years of resentment after moving across the country without voicing what it would cost him. Now he's learning that the path forward starts with having a different kind of conversation with his wife.
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"When one spouse behaves recklessly or unkindly during divorce, it can magnify grief, humiliation, and isolation."
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Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT retweeted
Doubt affirmations? Think again
Affirmations aren't just self-talk. It's a mental GPS that directs your thoughts and actions towards your goal
Say it. Believe it. Achieve it
Remember, 'I am' is power.
"As unfair as it feels, it’s important to remember: their actions reflect their internal state, not your worth or your truth."
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Self-awareness is key. :)
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If you wait to feel confident, you will wait forever. Confidence grows after action.
Yep. Always clarify your thinking, either with yourself or with another, as relevant. Helps avoid unnecessary trips down dark rabbit holes. ;)
Assumptions can dominate our #thinking and make #understanding a challenge.
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#TuesdayThoughts
#perception #fact #truth
#awareness #BeSmart #wisdom
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If you feel unlovable, you aren't alone. There are deeper reasons why so many people feel this way but the good news is, upon closer inspection, you'll learn you got it wrong.
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Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT retweeted
Hasan: The great irony is of course that Donald Trump is the son of an immigrant. The grandson of an immigrant and married to an immigrant. In fact two of his three wives were immigrants, proving yet again that immigrants will do the jobs that even Americans are not willing to do.
