Not to dunk on the Harvard student who I think is directionally correct but a lot of these responses are overly intellectualized (‘we need more ethics’) while the cause of a lot of bad feelings and bad behavior is simply a mutual sociopathy that requires a lot of work culturally to be made better. I’ll leave it to someone else to explain what women need to better understand about men, but men should understand that if a woman sleeps with you there’s a good chance she likes you and sees something in you, that she wants to be the object of your attention beyond the encounter, and if you don’t have interest or provide attention women will often feel hurt, or at least slighted, regardless of whether they feign indifference. Men and women have competing motivations and it’s obviously not possible to meet everyone’s expectations all the time, but it seems like the current culture is designed to manufacture frustration and disappointment among women. The therapy speak and ideological jargon women often employ to express themselves contribute to the confusion and mystify more than they explain, and my sense is women were more self aware of their preferences and better able to articulate themselves 10 or 15 years ago, but that’s just another reason that both an accurate psychology and acting with kindness (particularly to someone who is being affectionate towards you) are so important.