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Lighting Up the Shadow
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This right here right now 👇the most insightful and possibly freeing thread you can read about Food Addiction. If it doesn't challenge you or make you jump for joy... read it again.
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Most “nice” people aren't actually nice.
They’re anxious.
9 signs “niceness” may be holding you back.🧵
1. YOU KEEP THE PEACE AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE
𝘿𝙧 𝙂𝙤𝙗𝙤𝙧 𝙈𝙖𝙩é
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Here are 7 ways trauma hides itself.
And how it runs our lives.🧵
1. TRAUMA DOESN’T STAY IN THE PAST
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Addiction?
Depression?
Anxiety?
Relationship Problems?
Carl Jung mapped out the solutions decades ago.
Here are 8 Jungian concepts that can change your life:
1. THE SHADOW (𝙃𝙪𝙗𝙚𝙧𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙣 𝙅𝙪𝙣𝙜)
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Food addiction is real.
A lot of people are not “overeating.”
They are self-soothing, dissociating, obsessing, and surviving.
Here are 9 things most people completely miss about compulsive eating:
1. FOOD CAN HIT THE BRAIN LIKE A DRUG
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800 years before Bessel van der Kolk, Gabor Maté, and Peter Levine...
Rumi understood trauma healing.
7 healing lessons from Rumi: 🧵
1. PAIN NEEDS MOTION
𝙏𝙝𝙚 𝙒𝙝𝙞𝙧𝙡𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝘿𝙚𝙧𝙫𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙨 👇
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Think positive.
Push harder.
Be more disciplined.
The leading trauma experts say that's a recipe for more misery.
Here are 7 things they keep trying to teach us — and most of us ignore: 🧵
1. WE ALL HAVE TRAUMA - SEVERE OR SUBTLE
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Most goals fail for one reason:
They belong to someone else.
Your parents.
Your industry.
Your culture.
Your trauma.
Here are 7 things most people miss about vision, goals, and building a life that actually fits:🧵
1. GOALS ARE OVERRATED
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You may not be living your life.
You may be living a role you were assigned in childhood.
Here are 7 signs enmeshment is still running the show:🧵
1. ENMESHMENT IS CONFUSED IDENTITY
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We’re not just looking for love.
We’re trying to medicate an abandonment wound.
That’s why some breakups feel psychologically catastrophic.
Here are 7 things most people miss about love addiction and the “sucking hole” inside us:
1. THE PAIN IS OLDER THAN THE RELATIONSHIP
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Relationships fail because the unhealed child within runs the show.
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The very best thing we can do for ourselves, our families, our communities, and the world... Is to own the victim and narcissist within ourselves.
And get off the topic of "them."
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You don’t just remember trauma.
You relive it—every single day.
In your posture.
Your reactivity.
Your inability to relax.
Here’s what The Body Keeps the Score reveals—and how to finally heal it (by a PhD psychologist):🧵
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Vulnerability is the new cool.
Most of us still don’t know how to do it.
And without it—we stay stuck.
Dr Brené Brown
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When grief is repressed, and it finally comes forward, it feels like the end of the world.
If we have a regular practice of allowing the grief to move, it becomes a river that flows very closely with joy.
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Are you afraid of “getting in trouble”?
There is no trouble.
You’re an adult.
The principal isn’t calling your parents.
You've been indoctrinated.
That's why you're stuck.
Professor George Carlin
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If you’re worried about fascism, don’t just look at flags and uniforms.
Watch how power behaves when groups get big.
Watch how we lose our humanity and autonomy through fear. 🧵
The “helper” in me showed up long before I had words for it. I’m certain it grew out of childhood trauma—an early lesson that caring for others was the only way to feel worthy and loved
Today, I imperfectly practice the beautiful and complete sentence of NO.
Powerful words that give me back my voice and authenticity......"IT'S NOT MY SHAME"
We’re always allowed to be wrong.
In fact, we’re usually wrong.
We know so little.
Rumi said, "Out beyond ideas of right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I'll meet you there."
But most of us were punished for “mistakes.”
Our caregivers carried shame.
They handed it to us.
Schools punish mistakes.
Corporate life punishes mistakes.
Time to let it go.
Take big risks.
Make big mistakes.
Boldly and unapologetically.
Join a group of folks on the road to healing and connection, The Inner Work Community. 👇👇
