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Be a Submissive wife with common sense Be a submissive wife with your eyes wide open A difficult and abusive partner always leave a clue but we are always too in love to notice. Work on that I was a victim at some point too BUT the main difference was I didn't sit in the pity zone for longer than necessary and God bless my Parents for supporting me through the ordeal. Once it happens, No room for sentiments, wake up, Heal and FIGHT for you, You will let them win if you continue to stay in pity zone. Be Angry, Be Ruthless, Use that anger to Build yourself and ensure you WIN big with GOD. Leave the Kids with those who can help you and Go work as Hard and as Smart, Don't let anyone deceive You , You will need a lot of Money to get back on track My Kids were in Nija for 6 qnd Half solid years, I was doing 13 long days at a stretch, one day off and we go again! But Supplements and food Na water Sha and I was using my Gym at break time , 20minutes of rowing every single day. Yes it was Painfully Hard. I was coming to Nija every 3 to 4 months to see my Kids, Emotionally it was critical and I used anti depressants and therapy. The Kids were aged 5, 1 and 9months when I left them. You will cry , you will pray like Lunatic, You will work harder than most women around you BUT If you stay resolute you will Win with God . Divorce is not the End, Many women will make jest of You , will even call you a failure to your face and it might even be those in same religious and social circle, So you will weed out the bad ones and you will almost become Lonely! Guess what you can see through most fakes going forward if you pay attention. Finally You will Win with God and if you like punish your abuser, That's for you to decide, My Punishment for my ex was I remarried a Much younger man and sent Him the Pictures, Yes Why not! I am petty like that, I won't stop my life because one person choose not to see my worth. My last child will be 15 in January by Gods grace, He was a month old when we left, So time really do heal a lot if you give yourself the chance and believe it or Not HE is still single and unmarried 15 years later, but ofcourse Na Him Wahala be that. So remind yourself every time , I am very worthy , You are very worthy! Never allow anyone diminish you. NEVER So don't let anyone gaslight you at all. Go Heal, GO make money, lots of it, Pray every day as crazily as you can, Do counselling and therapy , its very useful, Use the anger and grief well and above all, NEVER Allow any loser that level of CONTROL over your life again. Life will never be fair for some , Get your fairness out of life, learn easy or Hard, its up to you. I wish us all well ultimately

Now I have another incentive to keep Drumming in your ears to Have money for raining days as women, And that means you will work. Any Man that tries to stop you does not like you, Yes Read the room. If anything were to happen and to some it will, sometimes un annouced in Her case, Having money will soften the blow and cushion the effects, anyone telling you otherwise is basically deceiving you and you should pretty much stop glorifying Poverty and lack You will be getting a lot in return as a woman and You bounce back way easier and quicker. Actually not having money worsen the entire situation. Make money and manage it well. It will be stupidity on any woman's part to not have nothing saved for raining days That we cannot mitigate against for youn Not making money will actually make them suffers more, but what do I know. If you think being poor will get a better outcome, I can only laugh. You think If She had like £100000 in Her account today She won't buy another country citizenship and fight Him dirty in the same UK? My ex parents were Judges, trained in the UK, When I suspected Foul play in our Divorce process which I filed for by the way, I requested for judicial review and we were moved to the High court in the UK. Yes Holborn High court, My lawyer was someone over 30 years in the bar, You think that was cheap? I paid with my parents support. We were in court for nearly 18months, you actually think I could have run that without money? Lol 🤣 🤣🤣🤣🤣, I returned from the UK straight to my own house and 3 cars with all my shopping for my Kids from the UK, you think that was childs play. Without money your transition and bounce back will be much more difficult but hey Each to His or Her own Whether marriage works or not, You need money to give you options and ability to live well and fight Dirty if necessary. Even Babalawo, Pastor and Alfa that will support you with prayers gan ma gba Owo. You had better wake up and live in real world