Tessy ♥️🕊️

I want my girlfriend to stop the job she’s doing because of the kind of men I see around the shop. It’s not that I’m jealous, but you don’t wait to fall on a tree stump before you think of removing it. My girlfriend was looking for a job when a friend of mine told me his mother needed someone to help with her shop. I told my girlfriend, and she was willing to do it. The woman is a very good person. She pays her well and even gives her allowances for food and transport fare. I think my girlfriend loves the job because since she started, I haven’t heard her say she’s using the job to look for a better one. The problem is, every evening when I get there, there is this one big car or another. Cars that no one in my family can afford. Cars that I can only dream of without touching. I mean mansions on wheels. These cars would be parked there while their owners have conversations with my girlfriend. Sometimes they see me and they leave. There’s this man I’ve seen there more than twice. The first day, he thought I was the owner of the shop from the way I was behaving, so he quickly left when I sat down. These days, he sees me and doesn’t act like he’s seen a human being. I don’t know what my girlfriend has told him. We’ve fought about this issue, and she told me, “Am I the one who calls them to come around? I can’t stop them from coming.” I retorted, “Then stop entertaining them. Stop making them feel they can stay and talk to you. Stop laughing at their silly jokes. Be unfriendly, and they won’t come around again.” She said she can’t be unfriendly to people she expects to buy from her, so the best thing for me is to stop coming to see her in the evening if I don’t want to see what I don’t want to see. She makes the situation worse for me. I expect her to assure me that nothing will happen, but she takes it as me being controlling and trying to dictate to her. She’s been working at this place for only four months, but cars line up there every evening. One leaves, and another comes. To make a long story short, I want to tell my friend to tell his mother to fire her so I can have peace in my relationship. If she keeps seeing what I can’t give her, one day, she will desire to have a taste, and that will be the end of our relationship. It feels diabolical to want my girlfriend to lose her job, but what other option do I have left?

My boyfriend doesn't give me anything, so on weekends when I go and cook for him, I find a way to take some home. It helps me a lot to know I have food in my fridge. Because of this, I didn’t shake my head when he asked me to cook for him. Days ago, I went to cook. Just like always, I fetched some of the stew and picked a few balls of the future and soup I cooked. I don't know what came over him. He stopped me, searched my bag, and collected everything. He said, "No wonder everything around here deflates once you come and go. See all these balls of fufu in this house. How much did you pay?" It looked like a joke, but he didn’t allow me to leave with the food. What hurt me the most was when he said he's not my father. From that day, I haven't gone to his place again. He asked me on several occasions, and I declined. He asked, "Is it because of the food I collected from you? I was only playing with you." How can he take it and say he was playing? He told me he had things ready, so I should come and cook for him. I told him I was his girlfriend and wasn't hired for pantry duties. He's accusing me of being petty, telling me that if future and soup is making me behave this way, he wonders what money will make me do. He's now telling me I didn’t cook out of love but because I would take some home. This is a guy who hasn't given me anything since we started dating oo. Yet I wash for him, clean for him, and cook for him. I've concluded he's just using me to do his dirty work, and there's no love for me. If there was, what is food that he wouldn't allow his girlfriend to take away? I'm considering leaving the relationship. Is that a petty reason to leave a relationship?

Someone took a picture of my husband going to work this morning and sent it to me like this, pls what should I do now?

I want to fall in love, get married, and experience everything beautiful that comes with marriage. There's just one thing standing in my way: I don't want to have an ex. I know it sounds strange, but the thought of having an ex scares me. Because of that, I've said no to a lot of men. Once you show me something I consider a red flag, I tell myself, "This man will leave me one day." Then I walk away before he gets the chance to walk away from me. Recently, I met a guy I think is wonderful. He's kind, respectful, and genuinely interested in me. We talk almost every day, and I find myself smiling whenever his name appears on my phone. Last week, he asked if we could be more than just friends. I told him I needed time. The truth is, I like him, but whenever I think of saying yes to him, the little voice in my head warns, "What if we break up?" Sometimes, I wonder whether I'm protecting myself or denying myself something beautiful because of something that hasn't happened. I want to experience love, but I don't want to experience losing it. Am I being unreasonable for wanting my first relationship to be my last? Or should I accept that having an ex is a possibility I must live with if I want to experience love?

I caught her cheating with an old married man. I thought she would say sorry and ask me not to leave her, but she said, “If I leave him, I will starve. You know you don’t give me anything.” She was right. We had dated for over a year, and I had nothing to give her apart from love and care. I was hurt when she said that. I begged her to leave this man because life would get better. She was just twenty-four, and I was twenty-six. Life hadn’t picked up for me, and she was also unemployed. I begged her to leave this man for days. She kept asking me, “What would you give me if I leave him? I love you, but he pays.” I couldn’t leave her. I loved her too much, so I decided to bury the knowledge of the old man and carry on with the relationship. She was living with her elder sister. I could visit, and her elder sister would tell me my girlfriend owed her, so I should pay. When I didn’t have the money to pay, she would tell me, “And you call yourself a boyfriend. You won’t leave her, and you won’t provide. Apɔsɔ!” Sometimes, her sister would look at me and tell me the old man had come for my girlfriend, so I should go home and rest. “You’ll only have what’s left after the old man has finished with her.” Her sister hurt me more than my girlfriend dating an old married man, so I decided to take the little pride I had and leave the relationship. When I wanted to leave, my girlfriend said no. When I asked her to leave the old man, she said no. When I asked her to talk to her sister to stop teasing me, she said she couldn’t. Eventually, I found a job out of town, and I knew leaving the town would make me forget about her in no time. We said our goodbyes, and I finally left town. When I settled, she came around. It was a small bedroom, but she stayed with me and didn’t go back until after two months. When she got home, she called to tell me she was pregnant. To make matters worse, she said she was never going to let it go because this was the only thing that would make me stay with her and not let her go. I don’t want her again because of everything she did while I had no job. When I hear her sister’s name or voice, my anger escalates. But the two of them are trying to get me to accept the pregnancy so I will marry her after childbirth. The love and care I had for her are no longer there, and I currently don’t want her close. I hate that she’s carrying my child. What should I do to prevent this cup from falling on me? I’m at my wits’ end. I just want a new beginning without her and her sister. Where do I go from here?