Vic, Porn Brained Addict 🩷

I just blocked one of my biggest spenders. The dynamic had become increasingly emotionally demanding, boundaries were being blurred and I reached a point where I started questioning whether he could afford what he was spending. There’s a popular argument in Findom that grown men are responsible for their own financial decisions and I completely agree. But here’s where things get complicated. What happens when you start to suspect those financial decisions are negatively impacting people who never consented to any of it? I don’t believe it’s my responsibility to manage a man’s finances. But when I have reason to believe his spending is coming at the expense of other people, I’m not comfortable turning a blind eye simply because he’s willing to send it. His financial decisions are his responsibility. What I choose to participate in is mine. There’s a difference between fantasizing about financial ruin and potentially creating it in real life. So I’m genuinely curious where other Dommes draw that line.