@ThinkingBone

my name is harrison

nyc
Joined April 2020
have as much fun with irony as you want but if you can’t drop into earnestness at a moment’s notice you’re not ensouled
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WBE’s entire publishing career has been him holding up a neon sign that says “I AM A REAL RAPIST WHO RAPES REAL PEOPLE IN REAL LIFE”. i’m glad people are reckoning with it now but it’s insane he’s been allowed to flit around scot-free for so long
reiterating . it's fucking shocking to me that some people *in my community* were stupid enough to read WBE's posts and go "haha wow what a good writer let me invite him to my party". he is a good writer, and he's also clearly made causing massive damage to ppl around him his *goal* in life . *for clicks*. im sure there's some dregs of humanity im there, im sure he feels some remorse and maybe could eventually be redeemed or whatever. but not by you and not fucking around me or people i care about. if you fucking bring this guy to my city, we are going to have problems
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white guy going to india for spiritual retreat after disappointing loss… very lindy, 20th century behavior
Cease headed home to Georgia for a rest when the Blue Jays' season ended, and the ace right-hander has big plans for the winter from there. "I’m going to southern India, where Sadhguru, a Yogi, his ashram is." (@ShiDavidi) sportsnet.ca/mlb/article/blu…
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broke: "my friend's ability to care and provide for me is a finite resource i must carefully conserve" woke: "my friend's ability to care and provide for me is maintained in a stable equilibrium by my ability to care and provide for them (and myself) in turn"
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this resonates with my experience playing SF3 competitively from 2020-2024. i improved poorly; didn't put time into correcting a lot of mistakes i was aware of. but even the fuzzy, inefficient way I went about it was still super valuable. learned a lot about learning
During covid I played Go reasonably seriously for about a year (had a teacher, studied puzzles, etc.) I didn't get especially good at Go, but here's what I learned about competence in general: 1/ Go teachers are adamant about forcing you *not* to say to yourself "ah that was dumb" and move on. Sometimes a move really is just dumb and it's good to vent. Usually though you can spend an hour studying your seemingly dumb move because (a) there is smtg very maladaptive about your instincts that needs to be beaten out of you, or (b) you don't understand something deep about the game, or (c) you have a wrong attitude that needs to be adjusted. So long as you don't face this you don't get better, and so it's absolutely essential to approach "insignificant" aspects of the game with due reverence 2/ this has also been my experience teaching programming. Ppl hit some problem they don't understand and blindly tweak things until the program works (or ask an agent to do it), then go "ah that was annoying!" and move on. As long as they hold this attitude they don't get better, so they keep failing interviews then go on X and complain about leetcode. To get better it's essential to slow down and think very carefully, or better yet ask a good performer how they would have handled it in order to improve. (Today you can ask an agent "this is what I did to solve this problem and I think my approach keeps me from improving, how would a great programmer like person_i_respect likely handle it?" and get a pretty good answer!) 3/ in general your rate of improvement in Go is a function of your ability to notice your tiniest impulses and retrain yourself to convert them into productive action. These impulses are your boring run-of-the-mill cognitive distortions. For example, people will make instinctive moves because thinking is hard [effort aversion], hope the move works despite having no logical reason to expect that [magical thinking], then blame themselves when it doesn't work [learned helplessness] 4/ if you interview enough programmers or talk with enough startup founders you notice that poor performance is often a consequence of these same errors. Talking to users is hard so people stick with their ideas and hope for the best. When the product keeps not working they think "eh, maybe I'm bad at this startup thing", and so on. CFAR workshops were supposed to train you to notice these distortions and do the right thing, but I'm not sure how well they worked. (My guess is not well, since it seems unlikely these kinds of changes can happen over a weekend) 5/ there is a lot of research on this stuff and the data shows that getting good at a game like Go or chess doesn't give you an edge in other domains (i.e. "far transfer" doesn't work). This mirrors my subjective experience. In about a year I improved at Go considerably, but it did not make me any better at e.g. debugging or solving programming problems. But I do think that's not the whole story 6/ I have no hard evidence for this but I subjectively feel I got better at learning itself, and I can now get better in other domains quicker than I otherwise would have. For example it *really* sunk in that I have to disqualify my ideas. So when at work I started talking to customers to plan product roadmaps, while I wasn't instantly better at talking to them, my PM game improved enormously over the next few months because I finally learned not to be easily seduced by my own ideas or delude myself with wishful thinking 7/ to give another example, novice Go players tend to be very embarrassed of their games (the rules are simple but operationalizing them is hard, so early games are a disaster). Go ppl have a proverb for this-- "lose your first 50 games quickly". Meaning since early games don't matter and nobody will ever remember them, you should just get them out of the way. It didn't permanently cure me of embarrassment or anything, but it really sunk in how silly it is to worry about being a beginner in public and that I shouldn't worry about that at all 8/ if you're hard-optimizing your time you probably should work on improving the skills you care about directly. But otherwise I'd recommend spending a year trying hard to get good at a competitive intellectual game. Chess or Go are good, but really anything turn-based with an objective ranking you can't lie to yourself about. Pick whatever you're attracted to, try hard to get better, and keep mental notes about the process of learning that you can maybe apply to other domains later. At the very least it'll be loads of fun 9/ you will be humbled. No matter how smart you are or how hard you work you will discover the ceiling is infinitely high and there is an endless supply of people better than you. Getting that kind of humility has always been good, and it'll be especially good as AIs surpass us in basically everything. The sooner you get that out of the way, the sooner you can focus on a creative niche where you have no competition (since nobody can be a better you than you) 10/ you should probably stop after a year or two. Competitive games with an infinite skill ceiling can take over your life, don't forget to keep things in perspective
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the last bit about limiting it to a year or two also stands out i was very impacted by my mentor telling me "play the game till it takes more than it gives"
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i'm still thinking about that erewhon smoothie
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i regret diving so much into the slutcon discourse i don't think the event is fundamentally bad, but i do think sexuality is a live wire, and the organizers aren't as serious about it and second-order effects as they could be i couldn't do better, ofc, but i'm not running it
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there's so many layers of *possible* harm, people disagree on which of those layers are legitimate and how to address them, this is all so intermingled with shame i don't want to apply to anyone after a few days the whole thing feels muddy and gross in my head
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i hope attendees had a nice time and i hope anyone who didn't for any reason is taken seriously. i hope nobody comes out of this emboldened to treat women in this scene poorly (even inadvertently). i hope that is considered as a sobering possibility. i hope, i hope, i hope.
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just wear a 47 cleanup of your favorite baseball team. if you don’t have one, just closest to where you were born. if you’re not american, whichever logo you like most. done.
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“that's a pretty fucking good milkshake. I don't know if it's worth five dollars but it's pretty fucking good.”
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my east coast mind is currently being completely and utterly oneshot by the california coastline
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she’s eating microwaved chicken nuggets with no sauce “it introduces additional texture i have no need for”
i recommend making a low fodmap shepard’s pie for a beautiful woman. you will not regret making a low fodmap shepard’s pie for a beautiful woman.
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slutcon runs a motte-and-bailey where it markets itself as a sort of sexual disneyland; sex workers in attendance, lewd photos of aella, kinky workshops, maybe you’ll get laid? ;) but when critiqued, it defends itself as a serious educational event for hopelessly awkward men
I dunno man, I think when a conference called "Slutcon" is advertising an $18K "Jackpot" ticket with listed perks like a VIP space to relax in with "flirt girls" and priority access to "spicier" sessions, it's not "prudish" or "fragile" to wonder whether women are the *product*.
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nobody is paying attention to how much easier it is for a woman to just leave the scene rather than speak up
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it's really not easy to decouple "is this sexually rewarding for me" from "is this prosocial over some given scale" libido has a way of invisibly warping people's values. this is core difficulty underneath every toxic situationship, every marital affair, every consent violation
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i recommend making a low fodmap shepard’s pie for a beautiful woman. you will not regret making a low fodmap shepard’s pie for a beautiful woman.
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multiple women have told me slutcon makes their experience in this scene worse you can't teach attunement in a weekend; just encourage bold behavior. wrt flirting, "too much" is way more costly (in making women uncomfortable) than "too little" ofc, horny men make this tradeoff
this is a huge part of why making events like this a central part of your community is bad. it creates a culture that is toxic and hostile to women
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