I wrote a book about what neuroscience can teach us about confronting harm, taking accountability, and caring for each other. Look up Disrupting the Bystander.
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Amazing how many people don't know this
so fascia is apparently enervated, deeply omnipresent, the cause of a lot of misdiagnosed pain, especially distal pain or in random places, explains acupuncture, affects the immune system, and probably holds tension and trauma as much musculature or the nervous system
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Tōjisha-kenkyū roughly translates to ‘the science of the self’ or ‘self-supported research’, and arose from disability justice in Japan: aeon.co/essays/japans-radica…
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It isn't easy to sit with ourselves like this -- but what powerful portals we open to transformation when we do
I noticed I was subconsciously attracted to meanness. I wasn’t sure why. And then I realized it’s because I didn’t want to address my own meanness within. I wanted to be around people who are mean so that I wouldn’t have to hold myself to a higher standard. I wanted someone to dare that meanness out of me so that I would have an excuse to “let it out” instead of addressing my anger. +
Intriguing thread:
My paper with @DanTGilbert is out today in Nature: people believe that people are less kind than they used to be, they're probably wrong about that, and we have an idea where this illusion comes from. nature.com/articles/s41586-0…
"Crucible is David Schnarch’s metaphor for any intimate, committed relationship. A relationship is a hot and visceral place where you constantly rise, flourish, fail, die and can be reborn. You keep reinventing yourself and developing."
psychologytoday.com/us/blog/…
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This is a great exercise:
1. Conscious check-ins: years later, I still teach this in @selfhealerscirc as the foundational course. Set an alarm twice a day. Stop yourself. Notice your thoughts, the sensations in your body. We have to slowly teach ourselves to leave this state.
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How to show up for one another, spoonie and disability edition:
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Contemporary folklore says that things go wrong during Mercury retrograde -- when the planet Mercury slows down, giving the appearance that it is moving backward -- to make us slow down, put pause on goals and forward motion, and see what needs completion or change.
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"What you have is what we call 'desgaste emocional,'" she told me. Emotional wear and tear, I translated mentally. It sounded so quaint in English.
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A key concept in "All about Love" by bell hooks
"By beginning to parent and nurture the old exiled parts within ourselves, we can develop greater compassion and understanding not just for our own past experiences, but also for the challenges that our children may face. This helps cultivate empathy, love, and compassion."
Here’s how I recently discovered this, and why it matters.
open.substack.com/pub/wheret…
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I'm enjoying @Theholisticpsyc's examination of relationship representations in popular media and how often they glamorize unhealed patterns and behaviors.
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If you cannot experience upset or disappointment without overwhelming rage, you absolutely need support to shift this patterned response. It is possible to change this, if one is willing to do the work.
This is familiar to me personally and part of the reason that I resist "intimacy" as a euphemism for sex. I used sex for a long time to avoid emotional vulnerability.
When people say that men are desperate for sex, then, is it true? Or is it that many men are desperate for connection, and sex allows them to feel connected without having to do the work of connection? That sex allows them to feel known without having to become vulnerable?
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