🚀High-Performance Strategist | Marissa Brassfield ✨Ridiculously Efficient | Future-Ready Mindset 🤖AI & Tech Tools | Elevate Work-Life Alignment
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Your calendar mirrors whose priorities rank highest.
How fully and unapologetically are you exercising your authority to choose them?
Saying yes automatically, without really choosing.
Following rules because that’s “how it is.”
Inheriting your entire belief system rather than building your own.
We’ve all been there… and if you’re reading this, you’ve likely hit your limit for blind acceptance.
You can have gratitude for the path behind you and still want more from what’s next.
Releasing what feels outdated makes space for creativity and opportunity.
The next time an automatic yes starts forming, pause for a moment and ask yourself, "Do I want to do this?"
Ask what you want out of life… and redesign accordingly.
Nine to one.
That's how many full-time working households have mom running the kids' calendar versus dad (Pew: 54% vs 6%).
Dentist, birthday party, permission slip, the shoe size nobody else knows. No title, no review, no raise.
Most moms don't choose it... but they're usually the first ones to notice what needs doing.
And those moms are absolutely the ones who re-do what was done wrong, finish what someone else started, and pick up the slack in general.
So... What do you do about it?
Hot take: if AI makes you more efficient and your week gets longer, you didn't get efficient.
You found more to do.
I turned my 80 hour workweeks into 3.5-day workweeks. The rest goes to my son, my husband, a lot of silence, and whatever else calls to me.
What would you do with the hours?
Finally seeing a pattern you feel stuck in doesn't fix it.
But it does open your eyes to your options.
Think about a decision you've been circling for weeks.
Now picture your daughter, your son, or your best friend sitting across from you with the same decision, the same fear, and the same two options. What would you tell them?
Notice how fast it comes. No hedging, no "but what if," no worrying about who might be disappointed.
That clear voice is yours.
It's always within you... You just have to give yourself permission.
Everyone who leaves a good job has two reasons.
The one they tell people: more time, a new chapter, better balance. And the one they tell themselves around 3am, which is usually about who they've been turning into.
Only one of those is steering your next move. My money's on the second.
Let's get into it:
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On September 28, I had Mohs surgery to remove basal cell carcinoma from my nose.
The cancerous tissue was smaller than the eraser on a #2 pencil, and based on a review of my camera reel, seems to have come up around 2015 or 2016.
I tolerated the bump for nearly a decade while it slowly grew, covering it with makeup.
All the while, I was in full denial
the fractional CTOs and coaching clients I work with when they're weighing a big change. What happens if nothing changes in 6 months or 12 months?
Am I satisfied living another 6 months knowing that this bump on my nose is skin cancer and that I can remove it fully, but am choosing not to?
Clearly, clearly no.
It was a no-brainer to remove it. We don't always get such clear-cut choices to remove things that are slowly harming us under the surface.
And yet, we do have this freedom of choice.
Right now, and every day, is a choice point.
You can choose a way of life that nourishes you and your family. Or you can allow others, external forces, or fate to choose it for you. Not choosing is a choice in itself.
What are you no longer willing to tolerate?
Try this experiment:
This week, review everything in your life: health, relationships, finances, home, and so on.
Then decide: what cannot continue as is into 2027?
Make the list. Don't worry about feasibility. This is you declaring what no longer fits into your bigger, better future.
Choose one item from this list and ask advice of someone who is on the other side of that decision. It's ideal if they've helped many people through it, like a coach or a therapist.
If you don't have someone to talk to yet, prompt about it in your favorite AI tool.
Let's make this the season we choose to embrace change.
If you're good at your job and bored by your own competence, the role that looks great on paper may have already stopped fitting...
And your body has probably been sounding alarms for weeks (months) that you've been absolutely determined to ignore.
Specific sensations in specific places, rising frustration in situations that used to be fine, stalled momentum, guilt for feeling ungrateful... Exhaustion rest can't touch.
Sound familiar?
Read more about what it looks like when you outgrow your career:
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I keep seeing people act like your 40s are when you make peace with what you didn't get.
I have to disagree.
Most of the women I know in their 40s are launching the vision, buying the practice, leaving the marriage that stopped fitting a decade ago, going back to school, or fractional, writing the book, or announcing a move to a different country.
And maybe we've been told that this is what a midlife crisis looks like... But nobody I know is losing it.
They're becoming.
Finding space to expand, and taking the leaps that have been calling to them for decades.
These women have the receipts, the network, the money, and the "I am done pretending" energy to actually do it.
If you're dreading what comes next, go look at the math on what's actually ahead if you take action on those things you've been dreaming about.
Actually ask yourself: "What if it all works out?"
Click below for the Tuesday newsletter I send to women writing a different story:
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