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To add some context for those commenting that banging a “hot chick” like this would be every 14 year olds dream. You are right. Controversial truth is that many teens who have raging hormones and sexual interests are going to consent and enjoy sex with the interested adult. Especially if she (or he for the girls) is attractive That’s guy or girl. We aren’t talking about an assault by force in these situations. But that is exactly how “grooming” works. The adult in the situation is using things like sex, validation, gifts, and so on that are pleasurable and inviting to the victim to get the victim into a relationship where they have power over them. And some adult predators are aggressively trying to make this happen, while most are more opportunistic and susceptible of becoming a predator if the situation presents itself. The problem isn’t so much the short term pleasure. The problem is in the consequences afterwards. I have run into this many times over the years where I am talking to an adult (man or woman) who had a sexual relationship with an older adult as a pre-teen or teen. In almost every case the teen “wanted it” and often times in the case of the girls had a crush on the older person and had somewhat tried to seduce the adult into it. The consequences of these relationships are almost always bad, and sometimes catastrophically bad for the teen. We know it’s that way for the girls, but no one ever talks about how it can be horrific for the guys too. The guys often have mental and emotional difficulties and struggle in healthy relationships as adults because of how the grooming affected their development and sexual and emotional responses. And a significant number of these boy teens end up taking their own lives, or turning to addiction. So saying “man I wish I had a hot lady try to bang me when I was a kid” is missing the other side. I remember when I was a teen and I would have loved to have been in a high intensity sexual relationship with any attractive woman, especially some fully developed hot 20 something chick. It actually almost happened to me. But I am glad it didn’t. And you should be glad too. And you should probably stop considering kids who went through this as “lucky,” because that framing is how people end up sounding like they need their devices checked.