HARBSART🇳🇬🇵🇸

If you have daughters, get real about their protection even in adulthood. Please don't listen to all these talk about women can protect theirselves. Look around you and tell me how this woke rave is working out for marriages. Your duty as a father over your daughters is far reaching. Even if no method or amount of protection offers absolute guarantee, do your very best. ●Be a model father. Be her first standard of what an ideal husband looks like. When your nature has set the standard so low, every fake impression of masculinity starts to look like gold. ● Let's go back to the traditional process where parents are heavily invested in the spousal search and even make recommendations without forcing their choice on their daughter. Some wise parents are already scouting for the family they want their daughter to marry into while she is still young. By the way, the rich still very much do this. ● Don't give your daughters out to men from questionable families unless the man in question distinguishes himself to assuage any concern you may have. Those days when spouses have a marital problem and it is escalated to the parents, the parents have no business with their son-in-law. They will call his father and ask him to caution his son. So seek to have responsible in laws, men who are in charge of their home and raised their children with discipline and integrity. ●. Raise your daughters well, too. Be the spec of your spec. Be the kind of in-law you wish to have. Marriage is not only beautiful when you marry right; it is beautiful when you are right for your spouse and marry right, because it takes two to tango. So, raise daughters who will be just as much a blessing to their husbands as they pray for. ●. Educate them and equip them with all they need to find as much comfort as they can within your limits while teaching them the humility to never lose their femininity to all the chaos of the modern world. ●. Be invested in the marriage for as long as Allāh spares your life. I know of some fathers-in-law who will physically inspect the accommodation their prospective son-in-law has prepared for their daughter. One of the first things that emboldens men to misbehave toward their wives is having no respect or regard for their father-in-law. If he fears and respects you, he will be mindful about certain rash actions or being reported to you. So, be a part of the marriage without being intrusive. Your home should remain eternally open to your daughter. Never tell your daughter that if she goes to her husband's house, she is no longer welcome in your house, whatever she faces in her matrimonial home. She should always have a home in her father's house. Always! Never embolden a man to think his wife has nowhere else to go besides him. NEVER! I never claimed any of these will serve as a guarantee, or that daughters that get all the support from their Dad may never be tried, but women that always have the full support and protection of their fathers or a guardian, even when tried, do not end up as miserable as others. A father is an important figure in a daughter's life, and your services will be needed much longer than your sons will. Let's play those roles for our daughters to the best of our ability. May Allāh bless us for them and them for us. Abu Imrān – at Abuja, Nigeria