Men weren't born this way it's part of the genrational programming. A boy asks for help. Dad gets irritated. The boy makes a mistake. Dad makes them feel stupid. The boy expresses a need. Dad acts inconvenienced. Eventually the boy learns needing people has consequences. So hr becomes capable. Self-sufficient. Low-maintenance. Independent. Then they're 40 years old, exhausted, overwhelmed, carrying responsibilities nobody asked them to carry, and unable to let anyone help. What looks like self-reliance may have begun as an ordinary childhood conclusion that it's safer not to need anyone.