morgan

Men are absolutely capable of playing house, going on vacations, and acting like a devoted boyfriend for five years with a woman they already know, with 100% certainty, they will never marry. ​Women usually date for the future; if a woman is with you for years, it's because she sees you at the altar. Men, however, are incredibly skilled at dating for the present. The lore dictates that a man will comfortably keep a "placeholder" woman around simply because she is warm, loyal, and makes his daily life convenient. He will give her boyfriend privileges, take her to his family's house, and say "I love you," all while secretly knowing she doesn't fit the specific archetype he actually wants for a wife. And the second his actual "ideal" walks into the room, he will dismantle that five-year relationship without blinking. This is called the "Placeholder lore"