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Have you ever been around a loved one experiencing such pure joy that you catch a glimpse of the little kid in them? For a second, they forget everything they're carrying. I wonder if that's what healing is. Moments of purity that transform you back into a version of yourself that wasn't hurt. Moments that restore you, piece by piece. I think we need to build our lives around experiencing more of these moments.

If you don't get extremely good at compartmentalizing, you're going to lose your mind and it's as simple as that. Getting in "the zone" is an unfair advantage, but you need to apply it across the board. I'm a business owner and a wife, and on top of that I prioritize my health and wellness. Over time, I have gotten really good at letting one part of my life have my full attention without feeling guilty about the others, and that's how it should be. I don't worry about work when I'm on a date with my husband or when I'm working out. People fail at this because they have this sense of impending doom always following them around. Everything is always accessible through your phone. There is no distance anymore, there are no boundaries. If you fail to build them for yourself, your attention will always be caught between multiple things, and your stress and anxiety will increase as a consequence. The world will not end in the 1 hour you're focusing on yourself at the gym. Give yourself permission to step away and tune out the rest of the world.

The truest, deepest form of love is only experienced when you're willing to change. When you're willing to give up your vices, your defensiveness. When you can let down the walls you built to protect yourself. Anything before that is selfishness, because you're unwilling to surrender your pride and ego. After I married my husband I realized how broken my understanding of love was in the past, and I regretted all the hurt that I caused because of it. You have to ask if you're willing to let your understanding of love be corrected, even if it means changing your entire worldview.

Love is the work of mirroring and magnifying each other’s light.

Sleeps next to me every night btw with her bunny rabbit feet on me

I remember when I was 10 years old, me and my childhood best-friend were out for trick or treating with our parents and siblings. In our search for the best candy we somehow found ourselves in a neighbourhood we didn’t recognize. It was now around 10pm, raining heavily, and very few people were left outside. Neither of us had cellphones or any kind of device we could use to contact our parents so we decided to knock on someone’s door. A lady came out and listened to us explain through tears that we were lost. She helped us call our parents and waited with her until they came. Last year on halloween my husband and I sat outside for over 2 hours and only one kid came to our door. The world you grew up in no longer exists.

A lot of people would progress faster in life if they viewed their growth through a lens of unlearning toxic habits and patterns of thought instead of learning a new way of being. This is the way of subtraction. Instead of asking "What do I need to do to become better?", ask "What have I learned to do that is preventing me from becoming better?" Your best qualities are likely buried beneath years of conditioning. Unearth yourself.

This is also why the people who can tolerate the tediousness of a good life will win, especially in a world where people get bored and need more and more stimulation/ drama just to feel something All success is a product of meaningful repetition

Sometimes I can’t believe God just made mini harmless lions for us to keep in our homes

As long as you decide that you want to keep improving, as a human being and also as whatever title you have (leader, mom, dad, daughter, son, etc), you are simply unstoppable. Nothing can get to you because you’re laser focused on your destination. Nothing else matters

My strongest held beliefs: - good decision making is the most important thing you can learn. The earlier you can start making good decisions, the better - if you focus on a single goal, show up every single day and take, conscious, meaningful action towards it, you will reach your destination in less time than you think - talent isn’t as important as embodying traits that everyone can appreciate. Effort is undeniable and universally understood - you need to acknowledge you are a soul. A spiritual being. You can accomplish whatever you set out to, but if it doesn’t nourish your soul, it doesn’t matter - values are your compass. You need a set of values that you can map every single decision/ choice you make back to

I've only gotten far in life because I don't wait for permission to improve something. Every role I've ever been hired for, I've looked beyond it to see where my help is needed. Even in my day to day life, if I can improve something, I don't need to wait. I've never defined myself by a set limit of responsibilities or skills. If a skill is called for that I don't consider myself to have, I can just adopt it. There is no cap on what I can learn and accomplish. I am a boundless human being. I rise to every challenge in front of me simply because I can. There's so much in the world that could be better if more people simply took ownership of their environment. You don't need to wait for responsibility to be given. You can just assume you have it.

People are way too focused on what they deserve and not nearly concerned enough with their own growth as a human being and we're all worse off for it Especially in relationships, there's so much emphasis on finding someone who meets your standards that we rarely stop to question whether we're capable of offering those same things to another person It's such a self-serving mindset because it allows you to constantly evaluate other people without ever having to evaluate yourself Of course you should have standards for how you're treated. But you shouldn't be treating the possibility of finding someone "better" as a substitute for examining your own behavior and what you bring to the table It is deeply unattractive to constantly demand better from the world while making very little effort to become better yourself

Uncomfortable truths about success: - Talent means very little if people can't consistently rely on you to deliver - Tolerating boredom will matter more than how motivated you feel at the beginning - Your ability to communicate reliably is just as important as your ability to do the work. People need to trust that you'll follow through on what you say - You don't need to be the most talented person in the room. You need to become someone whose effort rarely depends on how they happen to feel that day - You can do everything right and still fail. But you can dramatically improve your odds by becoming more competent and giving yourself more opportunities I think people spend too much time worrying about whether they're naturally gifted at something and not enough time developing the qualities that make someone exceptional Talent might give you an advantage in the beginning, but consistency is what allows that advantage to compound over time

Husband and I have been bingeing old scooby doo movies this Halloween season. Highly recommend. The art, the vibe, the stories. They don't make them like this anymore

You can bend life to your will. What you repeat, what you consume, what you surround yourself with - all of it is conspiring to make you who you are. And if that's the case, then changing who you are is as simple as making a friend who challenges you to be better. It's as simple as waking up every morning and speaking words of positivity into your being. It's as simple as repeating the behaviours that get you closer to your purpose. That doesn't mean it's easy, but the formula is there. You just need to be brave enough to apply it.

My hottest take is that you can be a mastermind/architect when it comes to your own life. You can make deliberate decisions and choices about the people, work, and commitments that will shape your future. Owning/running a business, I frequently have conversations with millionaires. But it's never their money that impresses me. It's the fact that they have also built loving marriages, close families, and lives they genuinely enjoy. I’m always looking for the patterns in how they make decisions, and something I keep noticing is that they have underlying principles that follow them across different areas of life. They know what they value and what they’re unwilling to sacrifice. That gives them criteria for choosing: - Who they surround themselves with They’re careful about who they make friends with, and who they spend their time with because they recognize how deeply other people can influence their life and sense of what is possible - Who they build a life with They’ve been selective about the person they marry. They care about shared values, how they’ll raise a family, and whether they can support each other’s growth. They understand how much of their life will be shaped by this relationship - What they do for work They make deliberate choices about what they build and what they want their working lives to look like. For many of the entrepreneurs I know, ownership matters deeply. They’re willing to accept the responsibility and uncertainty that come with protecting it - What they choose to believe Many are spiritual in some sense or follow a religion that they return to when making decisions. Their beliefs give them a way to understand their responsibilities, and align their choices with something beyond immediate success It’s possible to spend years repeating choices you would never consciously make. You have to be present enough to notice what your decisions are producing. i think the younger you learn this, the more of a headstart/advantage you get in life. There will always be things you cannot plan for, but you do have a say. A good life is something you can actively participate in creating.

Sometimes you are the problem and a better life is just contingent on you accepting that.