Kirstyn

Probably about to lose some followers and I don't actually care. I read comments from someone today - for probably the 10,000th time - telling a trans person "umm you know actually, you know, you can't actually change your sex and you are delusional." I want to talk to those of you who say such things. Because, I know you think you are right, and I know you think you are being helpful. You are not. You do not know thing one about gender dysphoria or about how these people have struggled. You take a thing that is perfectly normal for you - being at peace in your own gendered body - and you weaponize it against people who have never had that peace. And you tell them that they are wrong for wanting what you just naturally have, that they are broken, that they are delusional, that they need therapy, etc. Or worse, you insinuate or say that they are predators and fetishistic sickos. You lack even a basic understanding. They know they can't make their DNA the opposite sex. They just want their body to be more in alignment with what they have yearned for and longed for, in almost every case, since early childhood. They have a lifetime of listening to people like you communicate to them about how weird / wrong / stupid / delusional it is for them to feel the way they do... and yet they still do. The movement against trans people is not reasoned or principled the way you think it is, and that's true no matter how much you insist it nor how deeply felt that belief you have is. You are not helping. Listen to me - just listen: These are people. Almost every one of them has felt this basic disconnect since they were children. Many if not most have already struggled with and fought over it for years before they ever get to the point of even daring to speak it, to say nothing of taking hormones and transitioning. They almost all universally have had the therapy that you think will cure them, and it didn't. Almost all of them have spelunked through their own self-doubt / self-loathing / fear / disgust / hopelessness... just to cobble together a fragile truce that lets them breath enough to even acknowledge that what they are feeling is real. Then along you come. And you pile on them not only all your biases and misunderstandings and demands over who *they* should be, but all of your pseudo-scientific BS and your overgeneralizations and in some cases just your pure, selfish bigotry and nastiness... because they have finally, after all their torment and torture and doubt... finally gotten up the courage to stop hurting privately and the courage to start trying to heal. So naturally, your response is what? To make them suffer publicly. With all due respect, may I suggest that f you cannot make peace with someone else living life in their bodies in a way that brings them the peace they have searched for since they were just littles.... that you, my friend, are the one with the problem. It's not them, it's you. They are not broken. They are not flawed. They are not bent, evil, horrible, etc. This is a you problem. You deal with YOU. Don't deal with them, when the reality is that it's you who are bringing your baggage to the ball. That's all I have to say... click that unfollow button now if you wish; just get on with it. I don't have time for games or for pretending. That is all.