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Some of the language I’ve been seeing this past week in a nutshell: I’m doing this because I love you. I want you to be better. You need to learn. We need to humble you. We need to make sure you understand what you did. You need to apologize. We made you who you are, so you owe us this. READ THAT LANGUAGE OUTSIDE OF FANDOM FOR A SECOND. Does it sound familiar? We’ve heard versions of those things in real life toxic relationships. We’ve heard people justify controlling or humiliating someone by saying they’re doing it because they love them or because it’s for their own good. I’m NOT saying Army and BTS are in an abusive relationship. That’s actually the point!! YOU AREN'T IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM AT ALL. There’s a difference between a boundary and control. Saying you don’t agree with their actions, so you're withdrawing support, is a boundary. “We supported you, so you owe us different behavior, and we’re going to pressure, humiliate, protest or punish you until you give it to us” is an attempt at control, and at this point, what apology would even satisfy everyone? Speak now and it’ll be PR. Speak later and it’ll be “why did you wait?” Say too little and it won’t be enough. Say too much and people will say the company wrote it. Stay silent and people will say silence proves everything. If they genuinely reflect on this and decide they want to address it, that’s their choice. If it makes them approach something differently in the future, that’s their choice too, but pressuring someone into an apology just proves the pressure worked. It doesn’t prove the apology is sincere. Seven men can't live according to the individual moral expectations of millions of people who don’t even agree with each other. You control whether you support them, stream them, buy tickets, stay in the fandom or leave. What you don’t control is what they must believe, who they must associate with, what lesson they must learn, when they must speak, or what apology they must give. And with that, I think I need to take a little break from all of this. I’m honestly tired of opening this app and seeing the same discourse every day. It’s been a week🫠