Pat Stedman | Dating & Relationship Coach for Men

Interestingly enough, escorting is full transactionmaxxxing as both sides are getting what they are seeking, which is the way the dating market is going. It increases trust on both sides, so both individuals come in more relaxed, and guys forget it is a transaction, as long as the escort is charming. Outside of the cost becoming more and more competitive compared to normal dating, if the escort is actually good, the proposition becomes more appealing than someone who seeks the transaction from a normal meet-up but has little to none of the skills, not to mention the lack of guarantee of sex. Something non-sluts/prudes underestimate is how men are much talkative after they bust, so if they seek more rapport, paying the piper is part of the game. Not that it is conscious, but guys are usually more chill after their balls are emptied => none of the necessary bullshit to get there; therefore, their guards are down. That is why everything that happens before sex is bollocks, and the longer the play before it happens, the more the potentially false signal the woman will collect before she feels comfortable giving it away. This is what leaves them completely blindsided when men bounce after. When intentions are the realest after post-nut clarity. The rest is an illusion of control. That is why sluts have men chasing them: the guys have emotionally exposed themselves more, and they want to make good on it. This is where normal dating may suffer if the transaction-leaning continues, if it is more a way to extract from men with little in return. Because trust still needs to be fought over many rounds, and there is more goodwill in a single interaction, the monetised marketplace going into the para-prostitution route will saw off the branch it is sitting on. As other women will be willing to do what these half-in, half-out women simp-farming guys are not. However, if these women become as good at charming as these escorts, it would be the natural progression of freemium promiscuity, which is upgraded in a subscription model and the democratisation of sugar babies to normie chicks. The more conventional dating resembles a transaction without offering transactional certainty, the more attractive an explicit transaction becomes. The problem with transactional dating is potentially paying a commercial price for an amateur experience, and when romance adopts the economics of prostitution without the transparency of prostitution, it creates the conditions for its own competition.