Pat Stedman | Dating & Relationship Coach for Men

A lot of people who follow me are going to be angry at what I'm about to say But one of the big differences between a prostitute and an escort (besides cost) is that an escort usually has a role for the man beyond simply sex Sometimes it's to fulfill a specific fantasy Sometimes it's "playing girlfriend" on a work trip Very often though, it's to heal a guy and his relationship with women Good escorts give their clients an experience, not simply an orgasm. It's why they are typically not only attractive and sexual, but smart and charming A lot of times they have disabled men as their clientele, or men who have sexual struggles, and their compassion for these men (which other women organically never muster) can go a long way to helping them. Some guys end up being better with women because of it; having a hot girl enjoy them is huge for their self-esteem. For others, it may be the only way they can experience affection and understanding from a woman Yes, many escorts are mostly oriented to money, and are simply good at covering up the transactionality of the whole thing But not all. Many of these women genuinely have pure hearts and do a lot of good, because they have a the confidence, patience, and openness to use their sex to acheive results for men in ways most women understandably cannot This kind of sex work is substantially different than stuff like OnlyFans, which is far more mercenary and corrosive on society and the male spirit

Despite how much women talk about the importance of "self-care", they really suck at it - especially when there are kids in the picture. They over-invest their identity being a mom, and it becomes almost a self-flagellating kind of "selfless love" where their entire life has to revolve around the child. This codependency inevitably rebounds onto the marriage. Since the wife does not do anything she wants to do (this makes her a good person), now you cannot either. As a man you need to nip this neuroticism in the bud. But it's not enough to simply say "I don't care I'm doing these things with my friends / for myself" without letting her guilt trip you, you must also make HER take care of herself by creating free time in her schedule and encouraging her to get involved in activities that give her some of her life back. You need to take the lead in making her focus more on her own needs again, and not just the childrens'. This is not only how you improve your martial dynamic, sexually and otherwise, because a woman whose own cup isn't filled will never take care of yours - but it's how you get her to want to have more kids. One of the ironci yet catastrophic twists of this obsessive mothering is these women usually can't handle having more than one or two children tops - the helicoptering consumes them, which leads them to blame motherhood as "too much work" (which makes them resent you for making her one). Except it doesn't have to be, they just can't let go. It's a toxic attitude, unfortunately endemic among modern women, and it leads to shit marriages, kids who can't breathe & grow into functioning adults, and moms who become more and more entitled until they eventually crash out.