Embracing openness, seeking closeness Yin/yang, partner dance, improv, singing/harmony, game dev https://nitter.cf/t.co/UBndqTSBQ5
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Charlie is still going! He's been doing some more mindfulness and spiritual masculinity stuff recently, very postrat coded haha
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I stop maybe thirty feet off and just stand there a minute, letting him see me and decide what to do. If nothing for a while I'll pull some food out and remind him that dinner exists
On the other hand, holding something loosely can also give you the stability to lean in harder without being destabilizing. That's what good acting is: the fact that it's not "real" is what allows you to let out more authentic emotions than if the stakes were real
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It might not sound "romantic" if you don't "believe" in something enough for it to be tied to your sense of self. But on the contrary, having the security to hold something weakly gives us the safety to lean in harder without it becoming destabilizing
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yeah, holding something very loosely is sort of like failing to commit to the bit. There's a real sense of trust lost when someone doesn't seem to be in the trenches with us, when they are visibly less invested than us nitter.cf/array_hog/status/21152…
Yeah have this kinda feeling too! It's fun noticing the subtle little ways that I seem uniquely adapted to whatever weird future we're gonna have
Which is not to say that the solution is to drain the ocean. But you can see how it's more like a broken feedback loop, where the "perceived" crowd keeps getting bigger even as the actual population shrinks. The "crowding" is of social status, not literal resources