Jasmin La’Shon

One night I asked my mom how she knew my dad was “the one.” She didn’t say butterflies. She didn’t say grand gestures. She said, “There was a year I wasn’t okay.” She told me after I was born, she felt overwhelmed all the time. She stopped talking as much. Stopped laughing as loudly. She said she felt guilty for not being her usual self. And my dad didn’t demand the “old her” back. He just started doing small things. He would wake up earlier to pack her lunch. He’d fold the laundry without announcing it. He’d sit beside her on the couch and just hold her hand without asking a single question. She said one night she finally cried and told him she felt like she was failing at everything. He didn’t interrupt. Didn’t give a motivational speech. Didn’t say “but you have so much to be grateful for.” He just listened. And the next week? He didn’t treat her like she was fragile. Didn’t bring it up during arguments. Didn’t use it as proof that she was “too emotional.” He loved her the same. Calm. Steady. Normal. My mom looked at me and said, “That’s when I knew. Love isn’t the loud days. It’s who stays gentle on the quiet ones.” And suddenly their 20+ years together made sense. Real love doesn’t panic when you’re not at your best. It adjusts. It waits. It stays.