Why blot out his name and picture? Expose this weird mufucka and save a life…What’s the point of posting?
"Need someone who either A: has more faith in humanity."
Is this guy actually fucking serious? Who wouldn't WANT to have more faith in humanity? But women have legitimate reasons to be cautious around men they've never met. Expecting someone to gamble with her safety just to prove she trusts humanity is a fucking braindead take.
And since when does taking reasonable precautions mean someone lacks confidence? If anything, knowing your boundaries and standing by them IS confidence.
Here's what really gets me. She wasn't even rejecting him. She offered alternatives. Coffee. Pickleball. She was perfectly willing to meet him, just somewhere she felt more comfortable.
But instead of respecting that, he turned her reasonable preference into a character flaw. Apparently, she either lacks faith in humanity or confidence in her own safety.
And then he has the audacity to say, "Again, not pressuring you to meet."
Bro. You literally made her willingness to compromise on her boundaries a test of her character and compatibility. How the fuck is that not pressure?
Trust isn't something you get to demand from a stranger. And a woman doesn't owe you a demonstration of bravery just because you think you're trustworthy.
This is a MAJOR red flag. If she voices concern and wants to meet somewhere more public, there is no debate. She dodged a bullet. He didn’t offer another place, he kept trying to pressure her, then put her down like she’s neurotic or something. I would tell a guy like that to fuck right off. Remember a guy at the beginning is on his BEST Behavior.
It took months of talking on the phone and messaging for my husband and me to build trust, so when I suggested it was time to meet, we did so in broad daylight at noon in a park full of people and children. I told him it was for safety reasons; he agreed instantly and said sure, anything that would make me feel safe. He did not even question it.
