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Smoke & mirrors on closer inspection. Councils already have a duty to work with candour & transparency, they have standards & ethics to work to. Until social workers wear body cameras & have transcripts for meetings, nothing will change. Lip service. @andyburnham
The Hillsborough law has been passed. Local councils now have a duty to be transparent, work with candour, *truthfully* assist investigations & act in the public interest. committees.parliament.uk/wri… the time is now to push for justice on this barcouncil.org.uk/resource/b…
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An abusive partner does not suddenly become a safe or good parent when the relationship ends.
The same man who used violence, control, and fear against the mother will often use the same tactics against the children, or use them to continue controlling her.
Family court frequently ignores this. It treats fatherhood as separate from the abuse, and orders contact as if the two can be cleanly divided.
They cannot.
The man who was dangerous in the relationship is still dangerous as a parent.
The system that forces children into contact with him is choosing not to see it.
The System Is The Weapon
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🚨🚩WARNING: PAPA is running a PUBLIC SNITCH campaign that treats protective parents as criminals.
These posters plastered on lampposts aren’t “awareness.” They’re a bounty system. They tell the public to report neighbours to PAPA and the authorities for “parental alienation,” list “single-parent households” as a red-flag indicator, and dangle cash rewards for information that leads to a conviction. Parental alienation is not a crime. It is a contested, repeatedly criticised concept that the UN Special Rapporteur on violence against women has called a “pseudo-concept” abused in family courts to discredit allegations of domestic violence and keep children with the parent they are rejecting.
[Source:Ohchr]
The indicators on the poster are so broad they can be applied to almost any parent who has left an abusive relationship, limited contact because of safety concerns, or simply told the truth about what happened. Anxiety in a child, “adult language,” reluctance to see the other parent, or living in a single-parent home can all be reframed as evidence of the custodial parent’s wickedness. That is not child protection. That is a ready-made script for abusers and their allies to pathologise the parent who is trying to keep the children safe.
Groups like Women’s Aid and the Ministry of Justice’s own expert panel have documented exactly this pattern: parental alienation allegations are used to silence, threaten and discredit survivors of domestic abuse in private law proceedings. When a campaign encourages members of the public to surveil and report families on the basis of these criteria, and offers money for doing so, it is not neutral. It is intimidation dressed up as civic duty.
You can believe children benefit from relationships with both parents where it is safe. You can also recognise that a gestapo-like, street-level snitch campaign, complete with rewards and a warning that “alienators are operating in your area,” is a dangerous escalation. It turns neighbours into unpaid informants and treats every protective parent as a suspect.
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Such a "bright lad" will realise that stalking and almost killing a girl in bright daylight = slap on the wrist.
And what about the bright girl who almost died? All the other bright girls who are stalked and attacked? What conclusions will they draw?
thetimes.com/uk/crime/articl…
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In family court, fathers are granted rights. The right to contact, the right to equal time, the right to be promoted to their children.
Mothers are given responsibilities.
The responsibility to facilitate contact.
The responsibility to protect the children.
The responsibility to "promote" him.
The responsibility to make it all work or be blamed when it doesn’t.
This isn’t a level playing field.
📕Read my book: The System Is The Weapon
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WeAreLegion ❤️ ♤ 🌈☮️ 🇬🇧🏴 retweeted
🚨A renewed push for mandatory shared care is being sold as fair and child-centred.
Its neither.
It is a pushback against moves to prioritise safety over contact. Most private law cases involve domestic abuse. Forcing equal time in those cases doesn't protect children, it creates ongoing proximity to an abuser.
Children are not units to be divided equally. They need to be safe.
📰Why Mandatory Shared Care is a Terrible Idea:
🔗nataliepage.co.uk/2026/10/26…
Today is the last day to submit evidence to @UKparliment and @UKHouseofLords
for investigations into U.K. children’s social services. Shame this wasn’t more publicised in the media, so everyone could’ve heard about it. Much evidence will be missed because of this @andyburnham
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Not all abusive threats are obvious.
Some are vague, veiled, and carefully worded to create just enough fear, while offering the abuser “plausible deniability.”
It may sound like: “You know how bad I am at looking after the dog. I just hope nothing happens to him while you’re away having fun with your friends.”
It’s not what is said, it is what’s implied: You shouldn’t leave me alone to spend time with your friends. I'll harm your dog if you do.
This kind of emotional manipulation keeps you in a constant state of anxiety, unsure whether the danger is real, or you’re just “paranoid” and “overreacting.”
That confusion is exactly how control works.
#domesticviolenceawareness
Hi @MyCafcass @MoJGovUK could you please use a system that works for *all* its users not just the workers? @KnowBe4 (ex egress) is the most frustrating & locked out system possible. I think in 7 years I’ve been able to read 1 message out of the ~20 sent from your workers.
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Forcing parents down the care proceeding route if they don't tick the right boxes and councils using perjury in court to push thru care orders, breaking up neurodivergent or single parent families , why is that a "beautiful thing"? @BCPCouncil are certainly guilty of thia
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Police just told parents going to Europe’s biggest travelling fair (Hull Fair) to take photos of their kids before they go in in case they vanish.
This is after a fairground worker was jailed for 20 years for raping a teenage girl he groomed on site, and an organised gang tried to snatch a 5-year-old boy right in front of his mum.
Pickpockets are rife. Other fairs have had similar grooming and abduction attempts. Parents are being told to write their phone numbers on paper and stick it in their child’s pocket.
This is what “all the fun of the fair” looks like in 2026.
Protect your kids.
WeAreLegion ❤️ ♤ 🌈☮️ 🇬🇧🏴 retweeted
This is an extraordinarily disingenuous post from @Helen_Whately.
Let's be absolutely clear about what she's comparing here.
This isn't someone simply signed off sick.
To reach that £27,400 figure, the claimant would need to qualify for substantial disability support, including enhanced PIP for both daily living and mobility, alongside Universal Credit health support and thousands in housing assistance.
We're talking about someone with significant disability-related needs, not your average person off work with a sick note.
And PIP isn't even an unemployment benefit. You can receive it while working!
But here's where we should flip the argument...
If SIX MILLION full-time workers are earning less than this carefully constructed example, why isn't Whately asking why millions of people are being paid so little?
Why aren't we talking about employers paying poverty wages, the soaring cost of housing, or an economy in which working full-time increasingly fails to deliver financial security?
And why aren't we scrutinising the extraordinary concentration of wealth at the top, rather than attacking some of the most vulnerable people in society?
It's far easier to turn struggling workers against disabled people than to confront the economic system that's failing them both.
That's the real scandal here.
Shocking new report from @csjthinktank
To earn more than someone on sickness benefits you now need to make £33,000. That’s more than 50 hours a week on minimum wage – and 6 million hardworking taxpayers are earning less.
Under this Labour government Benefit Street is booming. Only the Conservatives have a plan to tackle this crisis and get Britain working again.
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Family member wants to meet a friend. I have to go to support journey etc
Finding hotels in the area that are accessible 🤣 When we do they are very very expensive.
Plus we need to book two nights for one day (recovery from journey time) Hidden costs of disability
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A reminder an HGV driver wrote to me. He delivers live animals to abattoirs & describes the places as sadistic, vile & depraved cruelty. Halal slaughter should be banned immediately.
"David I need to remain anonymous to keep my job as I work for a large multinational that are very PC/woke and me getting involved in any sort of discussion like this would cost me my job.
"I’ve worked previously as a HGV driver delivering livestock to slaughterhouses. In the build up to Ramadan the company I worked for made sheep deliveries to halal slaughterhouses up and down the country.
"We’d always deliver after dark and the loading bays would be full of Muslim men and boys who’d come to choose their sheep. They’d be climbing up the outside of the trailer to get a look in and try pick which one they wanted. They’d be shouting and screaming whilst banging on the trailer to try get the sheep to move around.
"Drivers would always do their best to try stop them as the animals are still in their care whilst on the vehicle. Once the trailer door was open the men would be jumping in the trailers trying to grab their sheep and mark it. We’d often end up physically removing the men and a few times it ended up in fists flying.
"Once the sheep had been herded into the slaughterhouse pens the real barbarism would begin. After waiting hours and hours with no access to water the Sheep were punched and kicked by the men and boys and forced onto the waiting line to be slaughtered. The whole place is absolute chaos with people screaming and shouting and the sound of dying animals.
"Once they reached the front of the queue there’d be an imam sat there reciting prayers as the slaughter man grabbed the animal by the head, spun it round and slit its throat. It would then be hung upside down on an overhead hook conveyor and transported for butchering as it was still bleeding and writhing around in agony.
"It’s not an instant death by any means. The supposed “vet” whose job is to maintain welfare standards is nearly always a friend of the owners and is also Muslim who’s paid and simply turns a blind eye. The whole place is a complete blood bath. Zero welfare standards, zero compassion.
"In comparison we used to deliver pigs to slaughterhouses and the welfare levels are immense. Animals were herded without any physical contact at all, if you so much as touched an animal the vet would have you and your company banned from the site immediately and reported to the relevant authorities too.
"The animals are slaughtered with a single bolt to the back of the head. It’s instant and pain free.
"I just thought I’d give some inside information as to what goes on.
"Halal meat is vile and it needs to be banned."
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How sad
Three sisters who died in sea off Brighton took own lives, inquest finds bbc.in/4jbxOJM
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£28,000 a week to house a young person in care in @Essex_CC This has to stop - youngsters don’t benefit but investors do / what is Gov doing about this? Trying to get all kids fostered apparently - ffs wasting money to profits not “CARE”
Fuming 😡😡
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Sir Stephen Cobb, President of the Family Division said “the obligations imposed on the Family Court where domestic abuse is alleged or established are unchanged”.
The fact the expectations of the court are unchanged regarding domestic abuse is a huge problem. The courts are under continuous scrutiny for not being fit for purpose, and the subject of consistent controversy about their treatment of victims.
The system has dug their heels in and doubled down despite a wave of appeals.
Court of Appeal dismisses majority of first case examined under Child Focused Court model - Today's Family Lawyer share.google/TET4XhMEaFRPO7n…
The System Is The Weapon
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Survivors often escape the abuse only to face disbelief or dismissal in family court. The system needs to catch up.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuseawareness
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If you want a decent state pension
You want decent social care and welfare that supports those who need it
Decent education
Decent infrastructure etc
You need to pay more tax .
Those who avoid tax need to pay it . Those who defraud the system need to pay it .
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This week I attended a joint therapy session with my abusive ex-husband. I’m forced to be there because a judge ordered it to improve our communication and fix our so‑called “lack of unity” — as if the problem is that we aren’t unified enough, rather than that he’s unsafe.
In the session, the therapist said to me:
“You hold a very strong view that if, in this room and in front of his father, you share what your son has told you about him, your son will somehow be punished by his father. That perspective is not helpful to you, to your child, or to co-parenting.”
Let’s pause there.
What the therapist called an unhelpful “perspective” is actually my valid response to my lived experience. It’s the realistic fear that if I say, in front of his father, the things my son has confided in me, his father will retaliate against our child.
To label that caution as “not helpful” does three things at once:
It treats a real safety concern as if it’s just my personal issue.
It shifts responsibility from the abuser to the person managing the risk.
It leaves me in an impossible position: speak in front of the father and risk retaliation against my child, or stay silent and be framed as difficult, obstructive or ‘unhelpful’.
That is not therapy. That is a dynamic that protects the abuser’s comfort over the survivor’s and child’s safety.
Research on coercive control and family courts is clear: joint therapy in the context of domestic abuse is often unsafe and can be retraumatising.
Survivors are repeatedly told that their caution is the problem, while the actual source of danger - the abuser’s behaviour and the court’s insistence on enforced contact - is treated as background noise.
When a therapist tells a survivor that her fear of her child being punished is “not helpful,” what they are really saying is: your lived experience of this man’s abuse does not count as evidence. Your risk assessment is invalid. Your job is to appear cooperative and keep the process running smoothly, not to keep your child safe.
#postseparationabuse #coercivecontrol #familycourt