Абиодун Сегун

Please learn detachment. Quit treating one person like they're the air you breathe. You completely fall apart once they walk away. You cannot eat, sleep or work. That isn't what love is supposed to be. That straight up feels like being held hostage. Yes, fall in love, create amazing memories and care for them. However, always remember that at any point they could pack their things away and leave. You need to be capable to move on with your life. They could change their mind at any point. Feelings can fade. All of the sudden you’re no longer good enough & promises run out. The person who promised that they would never leave you, is now a total stranger. To put it simply, detachment just means being able to look someone in the eye and say, I love you and if you choose to lose me, that is entirely your problem to deal with. If you decide to go find someone else to take my place, best of luck to you. And if you stab me in the back, you just made my decision to walk away that much easier Never allow someone to be you whole world. Because when they leave (and they most likely will), you’re accidently losing your whole life. Get used to people leaving. Don’t beg them to stay. Don’t text them lengthy messages at 3am. Don’t check up on them on social media all day. Don’t ruin your life because they decided they could live without you. Fall in love with them with everything you’ve got. Be loyal, be the best version of yourself. But always be strong. Because you can say; “This is hurting me so much but I’m going to push on.” Remember, they can leave. They can forget about you. They can find someone to replace you. But you will never be allowed to give up on yourself.